As woman, are we emasculating our men?

I have gone round and round over the passed year in heated discussion over whether or not woman’s liberation movement lead to society emasculating our male partners. The points in favor of this argument are backed by the following examples:
1) Men are consistently belittled by woman in public.
2) Artificial insemination and single motherhood has brought the idea that men are useless to society beyond being sperm donors. In general, woman see fatherhood as replaceable.
3) Woman’s liberation has created unequal division of labor within the household.

I have argued against this idea, commonly using the Obamas as an example of two working adults yet in a supporting union. I have dug through memories of my parents and grandparents trying to find evidence of the above nature. Yet, I personally have found none. There still must be some reasonable explanation to why the above three arguments exist.

Indeed, on my adventures in Disney World I witnessed such atrocities. Numerously times I overheard a woman sharply yell or direct her male counterpart to “listen up”. At one point, the elderly man was simply musing himself watching a 5 year old dance and sing with her Pluto dog. In his eyes you could see he was reminiscing to his own grandchildren. He was obviously creating no harm as they stood waiting for an elevator. His wife harshly snapped to get his attention when the elevator arrived, though he made no move to actively ignore the direction he was headed. Could this (1) be true?

The octuplets mother from California does the arguments above no good. Research proves fathers are an essential part of a child’s development. Though the Kaplan commercial does not show a father taking their son to get tutoring, only a mother. It plays off a person’s mind that a single mother would require outside assistance from an absent father (2).

Traditional male and females roles where to be provider and caretaker. It is obvious why the caretake would be the individual who was home with the children. The provider’s sole job would be to provide for the family and be rest assured all home issues where take care of by the caretaker. My parents are the ideal example of the above illustration. Both have college educations, but as a union they agreed my mother should remove herself from the workforce to raise the children. My mother took care of everything from bills, cleaning, child care, doctors appointments, laundry, and cooking. My father focused on work and furthering his career. He aided with the larger household duties such as yard work, painting, and repairs. When my father retired, my mother went back to work full time. The roles where reversed 100% (minus the bill paying). That is traditional division of labor at it’s best.

I ask, ” I am guilty of emasculating my men. ”

I have always dreamed and enjoyed working full time. I consider retirement my responsibility, not one of the states nor of a spouse’s career. Am I emasculating my men by the desire to be financially independent? Is the pursuant of a career, health insurance, and IRA ripping the responsibilities of my men away?

I have never wanted to be financially dependent on a men nor absorb his entire career as an extension of my life. If this is emasculating him, then I am charged as guilty.

I do need men. I want my men to be the person who wipes my tears after a hard day, but firmly tells me to “try again.” I could use a man to push me a bit farther. Believe in me and question my ideas to no end. ( No offense ladies, but no girlfriend has ever been “strong” enough to tell me to suck it up and get my ass back out there. ) Nothing makes me feel more sexy or beautiful then a man’s hands gently caressing my face as he gazes in my eyes. (Constant breast and ass jokes are not sexy, just annoying.) I need a man to be my hero when I am scared, make me laugh when I am tearful, and tell me to knock it off when I am too emotional.

I don’t want to have my career goals belittled or my body center of jokes and public fondling. I don’t want to be expected to feel satisfied simply because a man pays my bills. I want to feel satisfied because the man respects me as a sexual entity and a thinking individual.

What really constitutes emasculation?