Relationships are for dogs, breeding is for people

Over the short span of my life, I have watched society gender roles change. Even looking back on the 1980’s to now, we can see the dramatic difference in our personal relationships.

From the time MTV Debut “The Real World” to fast forwarding to the reality shows of today, our society prides itself of the dramatic turmoil and joy felt in relationships. We can point to the current Jon and Kate fiasco, with the obvious division of male/female supporters. Some woman being disgusted at the way Kate belittles her husband while others such as Gen Y Leader Penelope Trunk provide a social media high five the divorcing couple. The tables of gender roles are obviously rotating, with it’s very mark being left on the changing makeup of the ideal American family.

One can search the Twitter stream for the die hard supports and haters of Sandra Tsing Loh who shared her views on divorce and marriage with the world. Whether you agree or not with Sandra Tsing Loh’s point of view, you have to agree the traditional family and relationship balances are gone. Enter in the new era of marrying because it’s tradition not because of traditional gender roles. Throw in the hopeless romantics who believe in The Notebook, and we become a culture perpetually screwed.

Woman scream individualism and men scream for independence. Whether or not we have it in our relationships now, that doesn’t mean later on we may feel the closing grip of traditional roles nagging at our soul. Manifesting a horrible tear between reality and a cinderella fantasy.

Branded by two failed marriages and watching my male/female friends rack up the numbers on the divorce side, I’m no wiser than your local psychologist. What I do know, is no one wants loose the secret hope of being a part of a love story. Whether it lead to filing as married on tax returns or simply living like Oprah, perpetually in sin but forever happy, some of us may find love eventually.