Butting Heads

A person’s decision making process is developed through childhood and adolescence. It is acceptable for children to make emotional driven decisions. As adolescence, emotion is the designated devil for making bad decisions. Growing into our adulthood pants, it is customary for us to weight our options logically in forming pros and cons for each decision. We should not forget how important emotional driven decision making can be versus logical.

In my twenties, I was extremely adverse to accepting emotional decision making as constructive and positive. My aversion was so strong that I even placed my lovers on the logical pedestal of pros and cons. Displacing my emotions, the lovers I picked tipped the scale of logical pros versus cons. Did he have a job? What his spending habits reasonable? Did he have short term and long term goals? Did he have a good credit score?

I dismissed the inner butterflies, or absence there of, as irrational items not worthy of contemplating. I firmly believed being aggressively independent and goal oriented left no room for emotions to play a powerful force in my life decisions. Years later, I am dreadfully wrong.

Every morning I put on my grown up pants but now I leave room for emotional stretching. I enjoy independence to the extreme. Embracing the silence of a house, domestic chores left to only my hands, eating lunch as one, and being solely responsible for my income, makes me an incredible happy woman. Daily living I want to walk the road caring all the weight. Emotionally, I would like another shoulder. Someone else to wipe the tears, speak confidence into me when I am tired, and fall into when I fail.

Emotional needs should not be discarded as being “weak” minded. As individuals we need to allow our emotions to take more precedence in our decision making process. It is emotions that drive a consumer to pick a brand, purchase a house, or a vehicle. If we stopped looking at our jobs as simply a paycheck, but something we love and are emotionally driven to, would we all change the world? Smart employers will want the emotionally driven team members. Those who take stake in their work, self pride, and a deep admiration for the company. Educators who are emotionally driven to change the quality of life for a child will have more impact than one who just wants tenure. Politicians who cry over watching a city in despair, feel emotionally connected to small business owners, and passionately about society will build a country faster than the most logically designed plan. Emotions are the most powerful thread of being human and deserve the most respect.